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Advice for Carers & Adoptive Parents

NSPCC have recently launched a “Share Aware” campaign with lots of useful information – please see below.

Advice for carers

Through your local council or fostering agency, you may feel equipped to deal with the vulnerabilities your child faces as a ‘looked after child’ in the real world, but how confident are you with the online world?

Rules and boundaries you set in the real world can apply online. It is advised that you take the time to read all of the information available on the parents and carers (link back to main page) pages and follow the top tips for your child’s age group. It is important to learn the technologies they use, the positive aspects of being online, but also what can go wrong.

As well as this there are specific risks looked after children may face online;

  • Contact from birth parents or relatives
  • Risk taking behaviour
  • Bullying
  • Security and safety

There are preventative methods you need to take as their carer pre, during and post placement to create a safer online environment.

Children and young people’s use of the internet: Advice for adoptive parents

Many adopted children and young people encounter negative experiences in childhood. These experiences such as loss, grief and disrupted family lives can make them more vulnerable to risk both online and in the real world.

In the online world, they may be additional vulnerable to the range of risks that all children and young people face. Adopted children also face the possibility of contact from their birth family. This can pose additional risks. Sometimes birth families bypass the traditional route of using an adoption agency to find their relatives and instead use online sites such as Facebook to trace and locate them. Some adopted children also actively search for their birth relatives in secret; where they are successful, this can place them in risky situations.

For a child, finding their birth family when using the traditional channels can be emotional and challenging. Offline this would involve preparation and significant support; however the speed of the internet means online contact can be instant, direct and can happen without anyone knowing.

This contact causes additional complexities; what may start well and feel like a ‘honeymoon’ period, can quickly spiral out of control. The child could find themselves facing demands from additional relatives looking to make contact. These individuals may have varying accounts of the events leading up to the adoption which could leave the child confused and upset.

As an adoptive parent, it is important that you:

  • Take an interest in your child’s online life.
    Use the internet as a family. Discuss their favourite sites and the “friends” they have in these spaces.
  • Talk to your child about what they would do if they did hear from a member of their birth family online.
    If the situation does arise having a plan in place means they will be more likely to come to you for support.
  • Recognise that your child may be curious about their past and the people in it.
    Let them know that you understand their curiosity and that it’s ok to talk about it with you. Emphasise that you won’t be upset or angry.
  • Ask your child to set privacy settings on the sites they use online.
    This will ensure that they have more control over their personal information and who can gain access to it. Do the same on the sites you use and be careful what information you and the rest of the family post about your adopted child.
  • Don’t be afraid to seek further support.
    Contact your child’s adoption agency if you have any queries about online contact from birth families and if you are concerned that your child may be in danger – call 999.

New technologies open up many exciting benefits and opportunities for children and young people but they can also present some risks. Technology is becoming all pervasive, touching all areas of society, with children and young people having increasing access to personal technology such as web-enabled phones.

Becta: Safeguarding children in a digital world.

If you or your child would like more information please contact: Mrs J Bailey who is the e-safety officer @ The Excel Academy.